Women Empowerment-“The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world’__ a woman, who shapes the destiny of civilization, the mother of tomorrow and the procreator of this world just got trapped by the tragic irony of fate that a beautiful creation like a girl child is one of the gravest concerns of humanity even today. Society’s parochialism narrows down opportunities when it comes to a girl child. Right from the womb to the tomb, the war never ends.
The war of existence. The war of making choices. the war of being a voice in the crowd of the voiceless. The war to end this war.
“Chup rahe, tu ladki hein “- Gender Equality
Every girl dreams to fly and sore high up in the sky but the heavy shackles of society chain her down. Right from childhood, a girl is taught to be home centric. Things she should play with are dolls and cookery sets while boys should surround themselves with cars, artificial weapons, and superheroes. A girl’s hobbies should be cooking, nursing, spiritual activities and involving into every domestic chore while boys should find their interests in the outer world. It is still a huge concern for a father to get his daughter married to a financially successful man rather than investing in her daughter’s dream. Marriage is still believed to be some financial security than some sacred bonding based on mutual love and respect and women empowerment.
“Paar likh-ke kya kar legi “
Education is the gateway of success but too many of us, it is to get sold well in the marriage cart.
Society’s investment strategy is quite effortless for the girls__A basic education, which is the modern criteria of every matrimonial,some extracurricular activities just to ornament the matrimonial profile, settling for a man at the ‘right time’ because “oh, the biological clock is ticking”, growing kids, fulfilling responsibilities, investing time in everyone’s life and without even getting a hunch of it, the autumn of her life arrives. From preparing her kids for their school to preparing herself for the mundane concerns of her day-to-day life, it is difficult for a woman to find rooms to express herself.
“Ab samjhota karhi lo”
Now a day, everyone wants an educated wife (of course less educated than the man) who can do the shopping, pay the bills and be a full-time homemaker raising kids and taking care of everyone. Why? Are the University degrees are here to help kids with their homework and that is all? Only a few of them want their wives to go out and earn some money. Even in that case, most of the time they are heckled and badly treated because after all the work outside their wives cannot carry out all the household chores and get to hear that the money they earn is ‘extra’ and quite not essential as obvious but that money act as an aid to the family in the darkest hours or maybe even on the brightest days but their dignity, hard work, love for the family and ‘n’ number of compromises are never brought to the light.
No one talks about their problems and how they overcome it. How effortlessly they manage to bring a smile to everyone’s face after all the hard work.
Everyone talks about the shame for the girl’s family if she is sexually assaulted because no one is going to marry her but no one even talks about those sexual harassments she goes through in her in-laws. It is sad how marriage acts as a “before and after ” in women’s life.
“Bahu Nahi Gulam Banja”
It is OK to marry a spoiled brat but it is not OK to wait for the right man because an unmarried young woman is a “burden” to the family, moreover, she is believed to attract evil and lustful eyes on her. As if marriage is the boarding pass to enlist yourself as a protected slave so where is women empowerment & gender equality here?
In some marriage rituals, when the groom goes to marry the bride, he tells his mother, “I am going to bring a slave for you.”
Why shouldn’t he say “I am going to bring a daughter for you “? After all the bride is also someone’s daughter and it is not easy for them to let her go to a completely strange place and expect her to adjust. When the bride can treat her in-laws as her own family then why her parents are treated as outsiders? Her mistakes are said to be her parent’s lack of guidance whereas it is very basic for the man to do the mistakes. It is normal for him to have girlfriends but if she talks to some other men outside, she is called a “characterless”. She cannot have any opinion of her own because she got to abide by her in-law’s family all the time even if they are wrong. Why?
“Kabhi to sunliya Karo. . .”
As a mother, wife, and even as a woman, her sacrifices are remarked as duties. As if she is born to serve everyone, listen to everyone and not uttering a word.
No protest. Only submission they need women empowerment.
There are hundreds of “cannot” but only a few of “should not” when it comes to a girl. It is very unfortunate that a woman who is the fortune maker is treated as a fortune breaker. It is very important to realize that women’s existence is the reason for the men not disappearing from the surface of the earth. They need to be loved and respected because they bring a new life.
Women are also human beings they deserve women empowerment and gender equality, they are no object for free pleasure. It is not their duty to serve men but their love for them to do so. For the women out there, it not a sin if you love yourself first and then your family. It is sanity. It is not a sin if you choose to be something totally different than what your parents want because you are different and that is your superpower. Use it. Before this power makes use of you.
Be the voice in the crowd of the voiceless. You never know your voice can be the game-changer.